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Kaitlyn Elizabeth's avatar

Everything about this. Yes. I cringe when I think about the feedback I gave to parents as their psychotherapist before I had kids. They must have been like 🙄🙄🙄🙄. It’s ultimately felt freeing to me in a way...to release one more area of judgment. I always hated the word humble, but I can’t deny the experience of motherhood has been almost exclusively humbling.

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Emily Henderson's avatar

Oh Sarah, this is so beautiful and I love to see you outside walking in a stolen moment of peace. What you say about judging moms before becoming one and judging sober people before getting sober yourself... It's exactly that! The truth is I wouldn't/ didn't believe the real stories about motherhood anyway, just like I didn't believe I could have any fun without drugs and alcohol. When my son was first born I flashed a memory of my poor SIL, less than a month postpartum, making ME dinner and complaining about breastfeeding, and I thought, what's the big deal ?? (I was 22 at the time so I give myself a bit of a pass) For me, it's always been "contempt prior to investigation" ... "My kid will never, eat junk food, play video games, talk back, etc..." these moments when we are hit in the face with a big "I told you so" from the universe are so humbling. I hope you are resting when you can and giving yourself some grace when you can't.

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