Everything about this. Yes. I cringe when I think about the feedback I gave to parents as their psychotherapist before I had kids. They must have been like 🙄🙄🙄🙄. It’s ultimately felt freeing to me in a way...to release one more area of judgment. I always hated the word humble, but I can’t deny the experience of motherhood has been almost exclusively humbling.
Oh Sarah, this is so beautiful and I love to see you outside walking in a stolen moment of peace. What you say about judging moms before becoming one and judging sober people before getting sober yourself... It's exactly that! The truth is I wouldn't/ didn't believe the real stories about motherhood anyway, just like I didn't believe I could have any fun without drugs and alcohol. When my son was first born I flashed a memory of my poor SIL, less than a month postpartum, making ME dinner and complaining about breastfeeding, and I thought, what's the big deal ?? (I was 22 at the time so I give myself a bit of a pass) For me, it's always been "contempt prior to investigation" ... "My kid will never, eat junk food, play video games, talk back, etc..." these moments when we are hit in the face with a big "I told you so" from the universe are so humbling. I hope you are resting when you can and giving yourself some grace when you can't.
Ohh I've been thinking about this SO much. All the things I swore I'd "never" do and the ways I didn't show up for other moms in my life before becoming one myself. It's a daily exercise in remaining flexible and reminding myself to keep it simple, much like in sobriety. <3
I love this, so much truth behind your words. You’re absolutely right - it’s wild how much we find we don’t know even when we feel somewhat “prepared.” I’m a perinatal therapist who understands a great deal about the emotional and mental aspects of pregnancy and postpartum and even I felt shook to my core. Thank you for being so vulnerable in your writing 🤍
Everything about this. Yes. I cringe when I think about the feedback I gave to parents as their psychotherapist before I had kids. They must have been like 🙄🙄🙄🙄. It’s ultimately felt freeing to me in a way...to release one more area of judgment. I always hated the word humble, but I can’t deny the experience of motherhood has been almost exclusively humbling.
YES - totally agree. The word "humbling" feels overused at times but it's really the best way to describe how I feel day after day as a mother.
Oh Sarah, this is so beautiful and I love to see you outside walking in a stolen moment of peace. What you say about judging moms before becoming one and judging sober people before getting sober yourself... It's exactly that! The truth is I wouldn't/ didn't believe the real stories about motherhood anyway, just like I didn't believe I could have any fun without drugs and alcohol. When my son was first born I flashed a memory of my poor SIL, less than a month postpartum, making ME dinner and complaining about breastfeeding, and I thought, what's the big deal ?? (I was 22 at the time so I give myself a bit of a pass) For me, it's always been "contempt prior to investigation" ... "My kid will never, eat junk food, play video games, talk back, etc..." these moments when we are hit in the face with a big "I told you so" from the universe are so humbling. I hope you are resting when you can and giving yourself some grace when you can't.
Ohh I've been thinking about this SO much. All the things I swore I'd "never" do and the ways I didn't show up for other moms in my life before becoming one myself. It's a daily exercise in remaining flexible and reminding myself to keep it simple, much like in sobriety. <3
I love this, so much truth behind your words. You’re absolutely right - it’s wild how much we find we don’t know even when we feel somewhat “prepared.” I’m a perinatal therapist who understands a great deal about the emotional and mental aspects of pregnancy and postpartum and even I felt shook to my core. Thank you for being so vulnerable in your writing 🤍